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We, as Christians, have a tremendous responsibility given to us when the Lord blesses us with a child. By doing so, He entrusts us with the responsibility of raising up that child in the way of the Lord and establishing early in his life, a foundation built upon Jesus Christ. It is this tremendous responsibility that causes us to think of baby dedications as "family dedications". We feel that the whole family unit needs to be lifted up to the Lord so that each member will be able to keep his or her responsibilities.

But first, what exactly is involved in "dedicating" your child to the Lord? As mentioned previously, children are a heritage from the Lord. He gives them to us to bless us, and because of this we must be willing to give them back to Him. Referring to the loss of his sons and daughters, Job proclaimed, and said:" . . . The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised."(Job 1:21, NIV). Job realized that the Lord God had given him his children and that He was also the only one who could take them away. We too must be willing to totally submit our children to the will of our Father.

A perfect example of "dedicating" a child to the Lord is given to us in 1 Samuel 1:11, 26-28. Hannah, being barren (or without child) for many years, was weeping before the Lord because of her condition. As she was weeping, she made a vow to God, saying:"O LORD Almighty, if you will only look upon your servant's misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the LORD for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head."(1 Samuel 1:11, NIV).

God honored Hannah's request and gave her a son named Samuel. Hannah then, in keeping her vow, dedicated (or set apart) Samuel unto the Lord. We see here a beautiful example of what our attitudes should be towards our children and their relationship to God. We are to do the most we can to "set apart" our children to God until the day that they can make their own choice (something all of us must do at one time or another). By dedicating our children to the Lord we are making a vow to raise them in His ways and not our own. We are committing ourselves to this promise and we must do all we can to keep it. The following is a list (though not exhaustive), of some of the things we as parents should do as part of keeping our vow.

1. Pray constantly for your child.

A parent's responsibility to pray for their child does not end at his dedication but continues until the day he commits his own life to the Lord. Job gives us an example of this in Job 1:5,"When a period of feasting had run its course, Job would send and have them purified. Early in the morning he would sacrifice a burnt offering for each of them, thinking, "Perhaps my children have sinned and cursed God in their hearts." This was Job's regular custom."(Job 1:5, NIV)

2. Instruct your child in the way of the Lord.

We are taught in Ephesians 6:4 (NIV) to"bring them(your children)up in the training and instruction of the Lord."And Proverbs 22:6 adds,"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."(Proverbs 22:6, NIV). If we, while our children are young, instruct them in this way, it is highly likely that those ways will develop into a life-long commitment.

3. Be a living example of Christ to your children.

It does not do your child any good to instruct him in the way of the Lord if you yourself do not walk what you talk. Therefore, you must always be examining yourself and your witness to your children. In Proverbs 20:7 the Bible says,"The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him."The main reason for the blessed state of this man's children is that they have someone to look up to and use as an example to model their own behavior. We as parents must strive to be that example to our children even as Christ is our example.

4. Discipline our children in the same way the Lord disciplines us.

The book of Proverbs teaches us many practical aspects concerning the discipline we are to provide for our children. Some of the Scriptures that relate to this subject are as follows:

Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.

As you can see by chastening or discipling your child you are showing your love for him. This brings us to the motivation for discipline. Any discipline you give to your child should be done for his profit and not as a release for your own anger and/or frustration. Remember, you are to discipline your child in the same way that the Lord disciplines you. God never strikes at His children in anger, and you shouldn't either. Colossians 3:21 (Amplified Version) reads,"Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children - do not be hard or harass them; lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated;DO NOT BREAK THEIR SPIRIT."

We as parents are not in the business of breaking our children's spirits, but instead we are to encourage their spiritual growth. Explain to them why you must discipline them, carry out that discipline, and then most importantly, LOVE THEM. If you are able to do this, then you will be disciplining your children in the way the Lord would have you to.

As I mentioned previously, these are but a few of the responsibilities that God calls us to as parents. It hardly needs to be said that if you yourself are not a born-again Christian, these responsibilities will be impossible to keep. This is why we here at Calvary Chapel San Bernardino will decline any request to dedicate a parent to the Lord who does not know Him as his personal Lord and Savior. We will dedicate your child and the parent who does in fact have a relationship with Jesus Christ, but it would be an act of hypocrisy for us to allow a parent who does not know Jesus Christ to make a vow to Him that he cannot possibly keep. We read in Proverbs 20:25 (Amplified Version),"It is a snare to a man to utter a vow (of consecration) rashly, and not until afterward inquire (whether he can fulfill it)."Other scriptures relating to this point are Numbers 30:2, Deuteronomy 23:21-23, Ecclesiastes 5:4.

There are instances recorded for us in the Bible where individuals have made vows before the Lord and then not keeping them. As a result of breaking their vows, these people were dealt with severely by God (i.e., Ananias and Sapphira, Acts 5:1-11). We cannot allow people to make a vow unto the Lord if they do not have the ability to fulfill the responsibilities that go along with making the vow. We view this as an act of protection, and, not as one of rejection.

Hopefully you can now understand our viewpoint as being totally Biblical. The dedication of your family to God is something too serious to be entered into lightly. It is hoped that this paper has helped you to recognize the extent of this commitment that you will be making. If you have any questions concerning anything that has been said, or not covered, please write them down and ask them in your upcoming appointment.

Jesus said,"Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."(Matthew 19:14, NIV).





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